My Oma and brand-new me.
Part 1
Last time I updated you on our "situation," I announced that we are officially trying to get pregnant. Here's the latest update:
No news.
And honestly, the two times that there has been no news, I've been extremely relieved. Is that normal? I thought that I'd feel really disappointed if I didn't get pregnant when we decided we were ready. Does this mean I'm not actually ready? Probably not. It's scary! I'm more and more grateful for every extra month we have together, just the two of us, because I know that pretty soon, I'm going to get pregnant and everything will change.
I bought an ovulation kit to test when "all that jazz" will be happening. It's weird. I used one test, and it was negative (because I wasn't ovulating), and I felt like I was looking at a negative pregnancy test. They look exactly the same! I don't know if I should feel disappointed or relieved when I get negative tests. Is this normal?
If you're in the same boat as me, tell me how you handle all of it! What's the normal feeling? How long is too long to go without getting pregnant?
I'm definitely in the same boat. But, I just try to be trusting and relaxed about the whole thing. I figure I need to be proactive, but it'll happen when it's supposed to. It's a hard thing to let go and trust, but it makes the process much more enjoyable.
ReplyDeleteI'm definitely trying not to freak out every second. It's much easier said than done, based on how it's been going.
DeleteHey girl! I know how you feel. My husband and I were unofficially trying. If it happened it happened but we weren't stopping it.... a few negative tests and Yes I was relieved! I already have 2 kids. They are 6 and almost 4. Things are getting a lot easier and the thought of adding a newborn to this easy routine was really scary to me! I knew we were supposed to have another one. It wasn't the right time...so here I am almost 7 months pregnant and I'm still scared! 3 kids at 25! With my daughter (2nd baby) we used the ovulation kits. THEY WORK! Just keep testing and testing until you get a positive. Then you can really start trying. Don't give up! It will happen when it is supposed to happen! You have every right to be nervous and scared...this is your first right? My first baby wasn't planned but I wouldn't change that for anything. If I actually had to plan my first baby I would be a hot nervous mess! Everything will work out! If you ever have any questions about pregnancy you can always e-mail me! terynashleyjewelry@live.com www.thefancyyanceys.blogspot.com
ReplyDeleteHey girl. We just started trying too. I don't have any news yet either, but I know what you mean when you felt relieved. It's scary and exciting and nerve racking!! I downloaded an app to help me keep track of my ovation and all that other jazz. It makes it super easy.
ReplyDeleteTotally normal to flip-flop like that! We were kind of trying (I don't know how you "kind of" try something like that haha) and when I ended up pregnant I was kind of like "oh sh*t". It took me about a week or two to accept and actually believe I was pregnant and now I couldn't be happier. By the way, new follower from Life of a Not So Ordinary Wife. Nice to meet you :)
ReplyDeleteI really do think you need to chill out a bit. I am a new follower and from what I have seen, you have been trying what, a month or two? That is ridiculous. You shouldn't even be worrying at all. Lots of people try for months and months, sometimes years before getting pregnant, or not getting pregnant at all! For some people, it takes days for your body to get back to normal after being on the people, for others it takes months. I really think you need to do your research. I like the idea of posting all of this on your blog, but I am trying to give you a new perspective here before you get negative or sad. Just a thought...
ReplyDeleteI'm not sad the way people are sad who have been trying for a long time. I'm sad or disappointed the way you are when you run out of soap, or you miss a spot shaving.
DeleteMy point is, getting a negative pregnancy or ovulation test is weird, even when you aren't totally ready to get pregnant. It feels like you "failed," but you're really relieved at the same time.
Thanks for your insight!
I took a fertility test when we first start trying! Have you done that yet? It freaked me out because when I took it I got what I thought meant was infertility. But then Jeremiah re read the directions while I was freaking out and that isn't what it meant. I read it the opposite way haha
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